ASK THE EXPERT: QI have been married 10 years and we have four children aged 9, 7, 6 and 4.
You might benefit from going to counselling especially if you feel traumatised and need to the help of an impartial listener to process some of the feelings.
Up until this, I thought things were okay in our marriage, though of course we haven’t had much couple time with the demands of four children but this discovery has come as a bolt out of the blue.
It wouldn’t have been as bad if he was just accessing porn, as I know men do this, but the fact that he was talking to other people has really disgusted me.
MSN is closing all its chatrooms in Europe, the Middle East, Latin America and most of Asia from 14 October, and changing the way others are operated globally.
"As a responsible leader we feel it necessary to make these changes because online chat services are increasingly being misused," it said.
Take some time out together You can also take action at home to improve your marriage on a daily basis.